Nobody likes awkward silences, especially on a first date. While you don’t need to go as far as rehearsing your conversation, there are some simple tips and tricks that you can use to break that awkward silence and create a meaningful conversation. Finding things to talk about shouldn’t be stressful, but we all know it can be. Here are our top tips for great conversation starters.
Admit You’re Nervous
Nobody likes admitting that they’re nervous – we all want to come across as cool and confident. The reality is, first dates can be intimidating if you’ve been out of the dating game for a while. One of the best ways to open up a conversation and immediately connect with your new date is to simply admit that you’re nervous. If you’re nervous, chances are they are also nervous.
Being nervous around someone can also be a compliment – it’s natural to feel a little shy and nervous if you’re attracted to someone, and letting them know that you’re nervous can show them that you’re attracted to them. You may also notice that as soon as you admit it, you’re far less nervous now that it’s out in the open. Being honest and open about how you’re feeling is an excellent way to start a new relationship.
Compliment Something Other Than Looks
While we all want to be seen as attractive, there’s so much more to someone than their looks. If you open up with a compliment about their looks, follow up later in the conversation with a compliment about something other than their looks. People love being complimented and it can help spark conversation if the conversation seems to be ending.
Even if the conversation is not dying, be sure to compliment your date on more than looks to show them that you’re genuinely interested in them as a person. Someone’s interests, personality, and ideas are all unique traits that should be valued.
Ask About Something Other Than Their Occupation
We spend so much of our lives at work, but that shouldn’t necessarily define who we are. Instead of starting off the conversation by asking what they do for a living, as your date something else about themselves. Some great questions to ask that great alternatives to asking about their occupation are ‘what’s something you’re passionate about?’ or ‘what’s something that made you happy recently?’
Rather than focusing on careers, these questions can help you understand who your date is as a person. We focus a lot on talking about our careers that we often forget that we have lives outside of work.
Bring Up Shared Interests
As you navigate your first date conversations, you’re more than likely going to come across some shared interests – if you’re not coming up with any shared interests, there’s no need for a second date. If you’ve gotten to know someone online prior to your first date, bring up some of your shared interests that you may have discussed before. You’d be surprised at how different conversations can play out in person compared to having conversations online. When you see the excitement in someone’s eyes and hear it in their voice, talking about your shared interests can bring you closer together.
Starting conversations on first dates is something much easier said than done, but with these tips, you’ll be an expert at making conversation in no time. You don’t need any special skills and you don’t need to practice any specific techniques – at the end of the day, being honest and open about yourself is the best way to make meaningful conversation.