Dating as a single Mum can be intimidating. Not just logistically, but also emotionally. How will your children react? How should a single mum dress and behave? Whilst it’s uncharted territory, it can be very rewarding to step outside your comfort zone.
Dating as a single parent is a completely different ballgame now that you have. These tips can help you get started and give you the confidence boost you need to get back into dating.
1. You are entitled to a social life. It’s true! Everyone has an opinion about when the right time you should start dating is. But one thing to remember is – this is your life and you are the one who gets to live it. If your children are still young, just consider how many years you’ll be out of the dating scene before they leave home. There is no right or wrong time. If you feel that you are ready to start dating, then you should.
2. Ask for Introductions. Many single Mums are often shy about speaking to people and letting them know they are single and ready to mingle. Don’t make the assumption that friends or co-workers won’t set you up on a date. Let them know you are ready to start meeting new people. You never know who they might know.
3. When on a date, focus on the date. As a single mum, it’s easy for your whole world to be consumed by your children. But remember – they shouldn’t be the main topic of conversation during your date. Spend time finding out about your date. What are his interests, work, and hobbies. Naturally your children will come up in conversation, but keep it to a minimum.
4. Meet and greets aren’t essential. Children often become uncomfortable when there’s a number of men taking their Mum out on a date. It’s a good idea to keep details of your dates private, at least until things start to get serious. When the time comes for your children to meet your new man, plan something casual, and meet somewhere other than your family home.
5. Hold off on intimacy. The bedroom is not the best place to start a new relationship. We all too often confuse passion with love, especially if that relationship is ultimately wrong for you. If your new man isn’t willing to wait, he will have little patience for anything else. In a perfect world, a true gentleman will respect your feelings.
6. Slow and steady wins the race. A new relationship is like a breath of fresh air and it’s understandable you’ll to want it to develop at a fast pace. But do yourself a favour – allow yourself time to really get to know each other. If the relationship holds long-term possibilities, then taking it slow doesn’t hurt.